Healing Patterns. Deepening Connection.
Tending the living ecosystem of your relationship, where new possibilities can take root.
Couples Therapy in Berkeley and Petaluma or online with Tuyet-Lyn
Relationships are living ecosystems: tender, complex, and always evolving. When something in that ecosystem becomes strained or breaks down, it can ripple through every part of your life.
I offer couples therapy for partners navigating disconnection, conflict, or recurring patterns who want to find their way back toward one another: through slowing down, deep listening, and transforming the patterns that keep them apart so the relationship can feel more alive, connected, and vital.
My work draws from relational, somatic, trauma-informed, depth-oriented, and parts-based approaches. Supporting you in understanding the deeper dynamics shaping your connection and engaging them in ways that allow new patterns of relating to take shape.
A Space to Listen Closely and Work with What Unfolds Between You
My work is grounded, relational, and attentive to who each of you is and who you are together.
We move at a pace that allows something real to take shape, while staying actively engaged with the recurring dynamics, reactions, and interactions that unfold between you.
This includes attention to both your shared relational field and each of your individual inner worlds and how they meet, influence, and respond to one another in real time.
My Approach to Couples Therapy
Couples therapy with me is a space to understand the underlying patterns shaping your connection and to work with them in ways that support change, repair, and a more sustainable sense of connection.
My approach is guided by several interconnected areas:
Relational work — attending to the dynamics that arise between you, including within the therapy space itself
Somatic awareness — noticing how your nervous systems respond and interact in moments of closeness, conflict, or disconnection
Trauma-informed care — recognizing how past and overwhelming experiences may continue to shape your present interactions, including the ways inherited patterns and relational legacies are carried forward
Parts work — making space for the different parts of each of you that protect, react, and relate, including inner child work
Depth work — exploring what lives beneath the surface, including emotions, patterns, and meaning
Recovery work — offering support for those navigating addiction, compulsion, and the relational wounds surrounding them, including partners and loved ones affected by these dynamics. For couples, this may involve working with the ways addiction, recovery, codependency, or inherited family patterns shape trust, communication, intimacy, and connection. Drawing from 12-step and ACOA-informed perspectives, this work also attends to the deeper emotional and relational patterns beneath survival strategies, disconnection, and reenactment.
Together, we explore:
The body’s signals and nervous system responses
Early relational imprints and what tends to repeat between you
The moment-to-moment interactions that shape your connection
The ways your histories and identities meet and influence one another
The parts of each of you that show up in conflict, protection, or longing
The inherited patterns and relational legacies you carry and how those can be understood, softened, and, at times, unburdened
Practices that support connection, repair, and vitality over time
I hold space for the full range of human experience: tenderness, conflict, confusion, longing, grief, desire, and hope, while also supporting movement where dynamics may feel stuck.
What We Can Work On Together
Couples often come to therapy for support with:
Communication that feels honest, kind, and connective
Repair after conflict, rupture, or betrayal
Finding each other again in moments of distance or disconnection
Navigating life transitions (parenthood, loss, relocation, identity shifts)
Rekindling intimacy and desire
Understanding interpersonal and intergenerational patterns
Working with nervous system responses in moments of stress
Creating practices and rituals that support your relationship over time
Sessions available in Berkeley and Petaluma, California or online.
A Gentle Invitation
If you’re feeling caught in familiar patterns or longing for something different in your relationship, this can be a place to begin especially if something in you senses that staying the same is no longer what you need.
We can begin with a conversation an opportunity to get a sense of each other, and feel into whether we’d like to take the next step.